Got your attention, didn’t I? I like frameworks. They help me make sense of my world and the people in it. One I’ve found particularly helpful, in navigating the differences in my relationship with my Beloveds, is the distinctions suggested in the Auryevedic Types.
I’m no expert, but I do know that there are three dosha or energies. All of us are a mix of the three, but most of us have one or two that are predominant.
I’m predominantly Vata, which means:
- Bursts of energy but tire easily
- Racing disjointed thoughts
- Talk and walk quickly
- Changeable moods
- Excitable and enthusiastic
- Feel the cold
- Quick to grasp things but also quick to forget
Most of my Beloveds are, I believe, predominantly Pitta, so:
- High and consistent energy (that seems to last forever!)
- Sharp mind and good powers of concentration
- Move deliberately
- Tendency to perfectionism
- Tendency to feel warm
- Orderly and focused
You can thus envision the tension points!
- The ongoing conversations about the temperature in the house, the office and the car (summer and winter!)
- The disbelief that I’ve run out of steam already, when they’re ready to keep working or partying all night
- The lack of comprehension that I’ve already forgotten a detail or a conversation that only happened yesterday
- The creative way in which I do or don’t file, sort or process things
But understanding the differences has helped me.
- I am more accepting of both myself and others
- I know how I work and what I need to operate at my best – regular and frequent food, movement, breaks and rest!
- I’ve learned that instilling more routines and consistent habits are particularly helpful for one for whom this doesn’t come naturally
I’m also increasingly allowing my Beloveds to play to their strengths and making my contributions in ways that align with mine. I’m not great on the detail – true. But once I know what needs to be done I can get an awful lot sorted in a very short space of time.
Given the opportunity, I can also have bursts of creativity that my Beloveds can then figure out how to capitalise on. I may not remember much, but as my Beloveds are better at remembering, I can help by understanding where they file information and how to access it and keep it current.
What I do know is that when I take care of myself in my way, I can better access my particular strengths. And my limitations are not quite as obvious!
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