I remember the first ring I bought myself. It was made of sterling silver wire twisted into a reef knot. I loved it. It was a symbol of independence and a nascent expression of my own style. Ever since, I‘ve been a lover of rings and, despite a brief flirtation with yellow gold, a lover of silver.
Over the centuries jewellery has been a gift to symbolise many things but only in recent years has it come to be a gift that we legitimately feel we can give ourselves. While it can be wonderful to receive jewellery from others either as a family heirloom or as a gift from a loved partner or family member, there is something quite liberating about having the wherewithal to choose and buy jewellery for our self.
Today I wear a ring in the shape of a crown on the third finger of my right hand. To me it signifies dominion over my life and acts as a talisman to remind me that I’m in control of the choices I make.
Inadvertently the third finger of my right hand has come to be the finger on which I wear what I’ve come to call my significance ring – an item of jewellery that I love, bought by me, for me, signifying something important to me – a secret physical affirmation I wear every day.
I believe significance jewellery can be both a delicious and a useful accoutrement for our midlife journey. It doesn’t need to be a ring – earrings, a watch, a necklace; whatever item of jewellery you most enjoy works just as well. Nor does it need to be expensive – there’s lots of fabulous costume jewellery about, which you can change on a whim. Indeed, part of the significance may even be about the modesty or recyclable nature of the trinket. Or by contrast, an investment piece may be a reminder to ourselves that we’re worth it and deserve to spend some of our hard earned money on ourselves!
Thinking about what a piece of significance jewellery may be for you, if you don’t have something already, can be a delicious prospect equal only to the quest to find it.
Whether you wear your significance piece day in and day out or only every now and then, there is something very liberating about choosing and purchasing jewellery for ourselves especially when we imbue it with our own meaning.
So do you have, or lust after, a particular piece of significance jewellery? Do tell – what is it and what does it mean to you?