In researching the ‘what keeps you awake at night?’ of midlife women, we found that the following six topics most consistently showed up. They concern us too and that’s why we formed The Ripenists.
It therefore seems apropos that we resolve to take deliberate action to make these areas of our midlife experience more delicious. In the spirit of public accountability, here is my Ripenist Resolve 2016.
Wellbeing – taking care of ourselves so we meet life and all its opportunities with ease
A recurring theme for some years has been a vague discontent with my lack of stickability in the health department. In consideration of ‘The Great Wellbeing Experiment’ I wrote a ‘Niggle list’ and was surprised, not in a good way, at the amount and regularity of the pain I put up with or push through or try to ignore.
The pursuit of e-a-s-e appeals enormously but I know myself well enough to know that unless it is my priority, it won’t happen. So prioritising the pursuit of my Wellbeing is my resolve.
Beloveds – choosing how we show up in the relationships with those that matter most to us
In 2015, what with passion projects (eg The Ripenists), my consulting practice, overseas trips, family things, home renovations and all the learning, learning, learning, I managed to lose a friend whose circumstances changed quickly, because I wasn’t paying enough attention. This friend doesn’t have a mobile nor does she engage in social media so when I realised how much time had elapsed since we last spoke, only to find that her home phone line had been disconnected, I didn’t like it one bit!
I’ve since found her, thankfully, but it was a wake up call for me. Which means that I want to put connecting with the people I cherish ahead of my productivity.
Peace of Mind – taking care of our thoughts and feelings so we can be present to our lives
A brush with cancer (all clear now, thankfully) and the dark places my mind inevitably went to, left its mark by making me feel the need to ensure that all the myriad details I can recall in a flash are easily accessible (in hardcopy) for my Beloveds and anyone else who may need to know. Likewise simplifying, decluttering and generally making it easier for others to deal with the detritus of my life seems like a helpful course of action. And it brings me peace of mind.
As does leaving nothing unsaid. Enough said.
I therefore resolve to leave nothing that matters undone and nothing that matters unsaid.
Self image – being confidently visible to ourselves and others
Pierce Brosnan once said, “There’s nothing dignified about ageing” and he’s so right. But there is something liberating about it that I am absolutely loving!
As long as my eyesight works I want to embrace every laughter line as evidence of a life more enjoyed than endured. And in that vein, I resolve to embrace and enhance the evolving beauty in my own ripening.
Purpose – finding meaning through career, contribution and creative endeavours
I’ve learned that I am a happier Ripenist to live with when I am expressing my creativity. It can show up in my career (eg designing a workshop for a client or taking or choosing the perfect photograph to accompany our Ripenist articles), in the garden (eg researching all things butterfly related or wandering through the local botanical gardens), in the kitchen (eg playing with green smoothie recipes or juicing lemons from our own tree) or interior design (eg searching out the perfect curtain fabric or planning a renovation).
Opportunities for creativity are everywhere if only we see them as that, and I plan to remind myself daily that playtime is not the domain of children only!
Abundance – understanding what sufficiency in the second half means to each of us
I live with such a sense of abundance, and it shows up in many ways. It doesn’t take much for me to find the good, the meaningful or the joy in most situations. I am thankful to my parents for providing me with helpful DNA and an optimistic upbringing because it’s a deep abiding undercurrent in my being and life.
I believe that, in this regard, I’m one of the fortunate ones and I resolve to keep finding, sharing and savouring the joy, always and in all ways.
Finally, because last years word – Persistence – served me well, I’m upping it in 2016 to Pertinacity (persistent determination).
So there you go. My Ripenist Resolve 2016 is now ‘out there’. I hope by sharing my version it encourages you to create one of your own.