When we think luxury, we usually think about “a condition or situation of great comfort, ease and wealth”. But how about the alternative definition: “free or habitual indulgence in or enjoyment of comforts and pleasures in addition to those necessary for a reasonable life”?
The first definition may be well beyond our means (for now), but the second, is well within our reach. Yet, if you’re like me, can you honestly say there is enough luxury in your life?
For most of us I think the reason there’s not, is that good ol’ sense of scarcity thinking: thinking that we don’t have the spare cash or time, or not valuing ourselves enough to put our wants before others occasionally.
So having given it much thought I’ve come up with a partial list of what I consider luxuries and set myself a goal of ensuring there is a little bit of luxury for me in every day:
- Being just the appropriate level of hungry for the delicious food I’ve specifically chosen, made or ordered to hit the spot perfectly
- The smell of laundry fresh off the line, just cut grass, the strongly scented flowers of spring or a glass of good red wine
- Having (and using!) completely over-the-top moisturiser or body butter to rub into my increasingly drying skin (Marshmallow is my favourite)
- Having an afternoon or day ‘off’ when I allow myself to turn off the technology and do exactly as I please
- Buying a stack of my favourite magazines and sitting somewhere warm to enjoy leafing through them
- Wearing fabrics that are soft, slinky and stretchy and feel wonderful on my skin
- Taking the time to glory in watching the light (sun or moon) shine on a particularly beautiful vista, be that a landscape, seascape or the face of a Beloved
- Getting between flannelette sheets on a cold winter’s night when my electric blanket has been humming for some time, thanks to the thoughtfulness of my Beloved
- Indulging myself for hours in the latest book from a favourite author
- Listening to music (especially A capella and harmonies) that makes my heart sing and the hairs on the back of my neck stand up
- Buying fresh flowers for the house
- Taking myself off to an afternoon movie – just because I can!
When I look at my list, I realise how infrequently I pause to enjoy the experience of luxury – the moisturiser gets slapped on in a bid to get out the door, the sunset gets a cursory glance as I close the blinds, the movie gets given away in favour of crossing one more thing off the ‘To Do’ list.
None of the above costs much – if anything at all. What it does cost me is a little thought, a little time and/or a deviation from my direct route of travel, to acquire or enjoy a little luxury.
It turns out that luxury for me is less about more, and more about enjoying what I already have or have access to.
So, as I live my delicious second half, I’m choosing to be more deliberate in ensuring there is a little more enjoyment of the luxuries available in my day to day.
What’s on your luxury list?