You may have noticed that here at The Ripenists, we’re big on deliciousness. It’s central to our purpose and our belief that every woman deserves to live their second half of life in deliberately delicious ways. And that’s whatever ways are delicious to you – not that of your friends, your partner, your work colleagues, your Mum and certainly not ours.
We think this concept is so important that we spent hours – literally! – carefully wording The Ripenists Manifesto to serve as both a declaration of intent and a compass for smart, self-aware women to use (should you so choose) to navigate the sometimes murky waters of this age and stage of life.
Which gets me back to the deliberately delicious part. No matter which descriptor, demographic or box on the census you tick, there’s something that happens at a mid point in our lives where the focus of our striving tends to move more towards thriving, than just surviving.
It may be brought on by an event, such as getting or missing out on a promotion, the death of a beloved, the end or beginning of a character defining relationship or a child leaving home. Or it may be more of a gradual realisation that time is passing quickly and there are fewer summers to be enjoyed ahead, than behind. Either way, questions like ‘Is this it? (whatever ‘this’ is); Is this all there is?; Is this what the next 20, 30 or 40 years will look like?’ start to occupy your thinking, with increasing frequency.
However you get to the point of asking yourself the ‘Is this it?’ question (as inevitably you will), that very same point creates opportunities for both reflection and possibilities galore. And that’s where ‘deliberately’ and ‘delicious’ enter the scene. We chose those two words to inspire joy, ownership and action. Yours!
You get to choose how to craft the second half of your life – your way.
You get to reflect upon what’s served you well, or not, in your first half of life.
You get to decide how to create joy, meaning and whatever else matters to you, in the days, weeks, months and years that you have left to live.
You get to make it happen.
Five simple questions to start prompting your thinking are:
- When I reflect on the first half of my life and contemplate the second, what do I want less of?
- What do I want to retain or remain similar?
- What do I want more of?
- How do I imagine the answers to those three questions coming together (i.e. what picture do they paint)?
- What actions do I choose to take, to move towards making that picture a reality?
Ultimately, you can have all the deliciousness you can dream of in your second half – but only if you quite deliberately decide what that is for you, then just as deliberately, set about making it yours.
What does having more ‘delicious’ mean to you?