At this time of the year, like no other time, the quality and quantity of our relationships tends to come to the forefront of our heart, mind and soul.
As we contemplate the Christmas card or gift lists, the party invitations or consider who we’ll be spending holiday time with, it’s easy to become all too aware of the people who play a part in the joy we are likely to experience. Or not.
Specifically, Christmas gives us an opportunity to observe how we feel about the presence of, or lack of interaction with, others in our lives. And how we show up in theirs.
For instance, is it just because it is the ‘season of goodwill’ that we feel the urge or sense of duty to engage with relatives we haven’t spoken to all year? Or does this same ‘season’ give us permission to do so, when calling or being together for any other reason may be a bridge too far to cross?
Do we finally slow down enough to think about reconnecting with those usually out of sight and mind?
Then do we actually take the time to do so?
Some of us are fortunate to have family (and/or friends who have become our ‘family’) that we enjoy and feel all the better for hanging out with, especially as new memories are created and added to the wealth already fondly recounted when we are together.
Whether it is an old, new or a rekindled relationship, time with these people is undoubtedly an investment in our collective wellbeing.
Some of us may be separated from our loved ones by distance (thank goodness for Skype!) or circumstances that preclude spending time together at this time of the year. And while that may diminish the joy somewhat, it certainly doesn’t lessen the love, at all.
And some of us choose, at this time of the year, to invest in our own wellbeing and peace of mind by courageously (even if it is painful) stepping away from relationships where the discomfort somehow becomes even more heightened with the additional challenges that preparing for festivities can bring.
Regardless of our situation, by the time we get to our ripening years, after what may be decades of familial obligations, surely we have earned the right to ask ourselves this: with whom do we WANT to share our precious time and energy during the holidays?
Surely the compassionate answer, and subsequent action allowed, is that we share our most glorious Ripenist self with the people who most enrich us with all that is joy-filled.
With whomever, whatever, however and wherever you choose to enjoy this holiday season let it be a deliberate choice.
You’ve earned the right to make it delicious, your way.
What delicious choices are you making this Christmas?
Tell us here.